The Myth of Closure

This article, "The Myth of Closure" by Pauline Boss, challenges the popular notion that closure is necessary or even possible after significant losses. Boss argues that closure, often sought after the death of a loved one or other traumatic events, is a cultural construct that does not align with the complexities of human grief. Through the stories of individuals like Sarah and Donna, who experienced profound losses but found peace and growth without seeking closure, Boss emphasizes the importance of accepting ambiguity and continuing bonds with those we have lost. Instead of striving for an unattainable finality, Boss suggests that embracing the ongoing nature of grief can lead to greater resilience and emotional growth. The article further highlights the societal pressures to achieve closure and the potential harm this mindset can cause, particularly during the collective trauma of the COVID-19 pandemic.

  • Understand the concept of "closure" as it is commonly used in the context of grief and loss.

  • Explore the psychological and cultural reasons why closure is often sought after traumatic events.

  • Examine the stories of individuals who have navigated grief without achieving closure, and how they found meaning and growth.

  • Analyze the potential emotional and psychological benefits of accepting ambiguity and maintaining continuing bonds with lost loved ones.

  • Critically assess the societal pressures and implications of promoting the idea of closure in situations of loss and trauma.

  • Reflect on the collective impact of the COVID-19 pandemic on experiences of loss and the pursuit of closure.

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